No Panic at the Disco

vow edition
 
Your vows do not need to sound like Shakespeare or a Hallmark movie.
They just need to sound like YOU.

Funny, emotional, sentimental, short-and-sweet, romantic, awkwardly adorable… whatever feels natural to your relationship is exactly the right approach.

And if you need guidance along the way?
I’ve got you.

Before you start writing...

sarah's advice nobody asked for, but you will be getting regardless

Write like you speak

If you wouldn’t normally say:
“My darling soulmate, you illuminate my existence…”

…don’t suddenly start now.

You do not need to match perfectly

One person can be funnier. One can be more emotional. That’s normal.

Don’t leave them until the night before

Future-you will be grateful.

The personal stuff always wins

Tiny real moments are more meaningful than generic romantic quotes.

I’ll help refine them

I’m happy to guide, edit and refine your vows with you… without ever writing them FOR you.

Choose your vow style

  • Groom: I promise to put the top on the toothpaste, my dirty washing in the laundry basket and not to clean my football boots on the kitchen table. Oh, and to love you always.

    Bride: I promise to learn to cook something other than baked beans on toast, not to hog the bathroom and use all the hot water, and never to ask ‘Does my bum look big in this’ and expect an honest answer.

  • Groom: I vow to understand you when I don’t; to admit that I am in the wrong when I mistakenly think I am in the right; and to bring you flowers at least once a week as I am bound to have done something that I should apologise for.

    Bride: I promise not to phone my mum more than seven times a week, to buy only one pair of shoes a month and to accept all your bad habits as being what makes you as loveable as you are.

  • Write each other love letters before the ceremony and just do legal vows throughout the ceremony

  • These are vows that you write for each other to say, rather than yourself.

    Bride writing grooms vows: I promise to remember our anniversary dates, to always put my clothes in the wash basket when they are dirty and to always make you a cup of tea at night. I vow to always make you happy, to never make you sad and to only make you cry tears of laughter.

    Groom writing brides’ vows: I promise when I say I will only take 10 minutes to get ready, I will actually only take 10 minutes. I promise to not give you more than 3 renovation to do’s over a 6 month period, and I promise to always make you that special hot pot you really like.

    I vow to always accept you for who you are, to never try and change you (even though I hate when you pick your nose) and love you today and all of our tomorrows.

  • This can be as relaxed or as traditional as you want to make it

    Sarah: Do you both vow to treat each other as individuals and equals, never try to change the other; and give all that you’ve got to give to make each other’s dreams come true? Do you promise to be open, honest, and patient with each other, to trust each other and be worthy of that trust? Do you promise to keep updating these as vows as you go - because one set of vows can’t cover a lifetime of growing and changing or falling more and more in love with each other every day.

    Groom/bride: We do

some extra help

  • I promise to listen to your advice, even if I don’t always take it.
    I promise to leave the score behind, even if I’m winning.
    I promise to listen for as long as it takes for you to feel heard.
    I promise to take care of your kind heart and to always love you with all of mine

  • I vow to always protect you from harm
    To stand with you against your troubles
    And to look to you when I need protection.

  • I promise to not only listen but to hear
    Not only to be honest but to trust
    And not only to love but to be loved.

  • In your arms, I have found home
    In your eyes, I have found compassion
    In your heart, I have found love
    In your soul, I have found a kindred spirit
    You are my everything

  • I vow to be your biggest fan and partner in crime.
    I promise to support a family with you in a home filled with patience, love and understanding.
    I vow to grow old with you.
    I will love you faithfully and unconditionally through difficult and easy times.
    What may come, I promise to always be there with love.
    As I have given my life to you

  • I never would have imagined that out of all the people in this world, I would find someone as special as you.
    You are my best friend and my one true love.
    I cannot believe I am the lucky man who gets to marry you today.
    I promise I will never forget this privilege, no matter how many years of our lives go by.
    I love you, now and forever.

  • I promise to love you in good time and in bad
    When life seems easy and when it seems hard
    When our love is simple and when it is an effort.
    I promise to cherish you and to always hold you in highest regard.
    These things I give you today and all the days of our life.

  • Thank you for standing here with me today as we create the ultimate team for life.
    I will be by your side and always love who you are, as well as the person you will grow to be.
    I will work hard to understand your wishes, desires, fears, and dreams and will strive to make you happy.
    I will be there for you when you need me, whenever you need me, and I will support you through misfortune, and celebrate your triumphs.
    I will keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion.
    I can’t wait to start this new and exciting adventure with the person I love most in the world

taking it a step further

  • “I promise to hold your hand every night and to never let us lose our spark.”

    "I vow to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed, and to share in the silence when

    they are not."

    “I vow to be giving and forgiving; to make you laugh and to laugh at myself.”

    “You are my guide to love, my every wish, and the person I want to grow old with.”

    “You’re my person. You just are.”

    “I promise to love you, to be your hearth, to keep a flame alive for you in my heart.”

    “When you walked into my life, love walked in, too.”

    “I vow to love you as you love me, through all hardship, darkness, and pain to reach for our joys, our hopes, and

    always with honesty and faith.”

    “Time is always on my side when I am with you.”

    “I vow to be as much of a rock for you as you have been for me.”

  • "I believe in you, the person you will grow to be and the couple we will be together. With my whole heart, I take you as my wife/husband, acknowledging and accepting your faults and strengths, as you do mine. I promise to be faithful and supportive and to always make our family's love and happiness my priority. I will be yours in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, in failure and in triumph. I will dream with you, celebrate with you, and walk beside you through whatever our lives may bring. You are my person—my love and my life, today and always."

    “I love your sense of adventure and the way you always brighten my day. I vow to join with you in this journey as your wife/husband with an open heart and to make even the smallest of our accomplishments—eating breakfast or changing a light bulb—into an exciting part of our lives together.”

    “They say love is like magic and I couldn’t agree more. When I first met you, you seemed to appear out of nowhere. My focus was kept on you, consistently trying to solve the puzzle of who you were and where you were from. As our love grew, I couldn’t wait to see you again and be entertained by the chemistry we shared. Now as we wed, I look forward to unlocking the mysteries of the world with you by my side. After all, every good magician relies on their assistant.”

    “A rainbow occurs naturally when the Earth is in perfect harmony. A precise combination and balance between sunshine and rain that creates a prism of colors perfectly painted in a half-circle across the sky for all to enjoy. Finding a rainbow is not easy. I like to think of our love as a rainbow that brightens both of our lives and has a lasting impression on those who witness it.”

    "I promise to be your lover, companion, and friend, Your partner in parenthood, Your ally in conflict, Your greatest fan and your toughest adversary, Your comrade in adventure, Your student and your teacher, Your consolation in disappointment, Your accomplice in mischief. This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things. All things."

    “I believe you have been the best guide for me through this journey called life. You have shown me what it means to love. You have directed me down paths I did not know existed. Through our adventures, we have discovered beautiful waterfalls and fields of wildflowers. We have fought rapids and turbulent waters and came out the other side victorious and stronger than before. I look forward to holding your hand through all the adventures to come.”

  • “In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.” — Maya Angelou

    “The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they’re right if you love to be with them all the time.” — Julia Child

    “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” — Mignon McLaughlin

    “To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow—this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” — Elizabeth Gilbert

    “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you...I could walk through my garden forever.” — Lord Alfred Tennyson

    “The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make—not just on your wedding day, but over and over again—and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.” — Barbara De Angelis

    “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” — Bruce Lee

    “A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.” — Andre Marois

    “When I saw you I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew.” — Arrigo Boito

    “When you trip over love, it is easy to get up. But when you fall in love, it is impossible to stand again.” — Albert Einstein

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